Posts tagged relationships
Boundaries for People Pleasers

Do you often go with the flow, even when you would rather be doing something else, to “make” the rest of the group happy, but feel resentful after?  

Do you do anything possible to avoid emotional discord, disagreements, or uncomfortable situations?

Is it difficult for you to say no?

Are you indecisive?  Do you base your decisions on other people’s judgments?

Do you blame yourself for another person’s unhappiness, or take responsibility for another person’s emotional wellbeing? 

Do you often feel like you give and give without getting anything in return?

If you answered yes to most of these questions, you are probably a people pleaser.  Don’t worry. I’m a natural people pleaser too. The good news is, the first step to change is awareness.  Now that you are aware, you can work to change people pleasing habits. It was possible for me and it is totally possible for you to step into your power, be a kind person, and have boundaries that allow you to love without sacrificing yourself to the point of exhaustion and internal frustration. 

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What To Do & Not Do When Your Friend Has Had A Breakdown

Your friend or loved one has had a breakdown.  Maybe they’ve had a depression relapse, or a self harm relapse.  Perhaps an old traumatic memory has surfaced, and they’re going through a dark night of the soul.  Maybe they’re experiencing a spiritual emergency. You may feel the heavy weight of this news and are unsure of where your responsibility lies. You may feel helpless.  Here’s a list of things you can do, and not do, to move through this situation with compassion and effectively support the person you care about. 

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